“I, Pedophile”

I decided to continue my journey by seeking the help of a therapist and doing as much research on the topic of pedophilia as I could, with the help of my sister and her computer. What I discovered was that for every small nugget of helpful information, there was a sinkhole of unanswered questions that remained. The main query that I am convinced will always be without an answer is why I am a pedophile. It is the equivalent of trying to determine why someone is heterosexual or gay. We don’t choose our sexual orientations. If we could, believe me, no one would choose mine.

The most important thing I’ve discovered in the 15 months since my arrest isn’t the why, but rather what can be done to change the preconceptions and misconceptions that society has when it comes to pedophiles. Most people hear that word and think of the Jerry Sanduskys and abusive Catholic priests of the world. Fewer people think about the millions who grapple with sexual feelings on which they can never act.

via The Atlantic.

I have a lot of sympathy for pedophiles who don’t act on their urges. (I do count viewing child pornography as ‘acting on those urges’).

But there really is no conversation to be had; pedophilia has only one possible answer – the pedophile has to be treated for his problem such that he no longer experiences the desire. Period. There’s nothing else to be done.

The fact that he is part of a larger movement to normalize socially unacceptable sexual deviance (no doubt this being a reaction to the gay marriage SCOTUS decision) is problematic. I don’t want it normalized. I am all in favor of finding a safe way for pedophiles to live, but I’m not willing to compromise the safety of children.

If you really don’t want to go to jail, give up your sex drive altogether. Yes, it’s harsh – but so is child molestation.

Despite its overall awesomeness, Game of Thrones leaves the incorrect impression that eunuchs are relegated to a fantastical, bygone era. In reality, there are more castrated men alive today that at any other point in history.

As many as 600,000 men in North America are living as eunuchs for medical reasons….

These side effects are psychologically and physically distressing to men undergoing treatment for prostate cancer. However, a much smaller set of men voluntarily choose castration precisely for the side effects. For them, castration is not a means to a cure. It is a cure.

The Eunuch Archive, the largest online society for men who are castrated or are considering it, features a great many brave, candid, and personal accounts from neutered men. Often, their desire to be castrated stems from abuse sustained during childhood, homosexuality, exposure to animal castration during youth, or religious condemnation. Others describe themselves as sex addicts or pedophiles, desperate for freedom from their out-of-control lifestyles or lurid fantasies.

“I was castrated because my sex drive was out of control. I was in debt from phone chat rooms and those fees. I bought a lot of porn. Paid for sex and met someone who abused me and took my money. My life was a mess. I needed riskier sex to feed my addictions. I put 100,000 miles on a car in two years out looking for a thrill. I needed to stop those actions,” wrote one anonymous member.

from Real Clear Science

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