Coy was born a triplet with two sisters and identified as a girl before she began attending elementary school in Fountain-Fort Carson School District 8, an area heavy with military personnel near an Army base. Her father, Jeremy, is an ex-Marine.
At 5 months, she took a pink blanket meant for her sister Lily. Later, she showed little interest in toy cars and boy clothes with pictures of sports, monsters and dinosaurs on them. She refused to leave the house if she had to wear boy clothes. After her parents accepted her identity, they said, Coy come out of her shell.
Coy was diagnosed with “gender identity disorder” – a designation the American Psychiatric Association removed last year from its list of mental ailments. The removal reflected the growing medical consensus that identification as another gender cannot be changed.
The Mathises said they feared the district’s decision would stigmatize Coy, who was reduced to tears when her teacher briefly put her in the boys’ line. When she came home, according to legal records, she cried to her parents: “Not even my teachers know I’m a girl!” When Coy rose to first grade, the district forbade her from using the girls’ restroom.
Since this has already been deemed an issue on which reasonable people cannot disagree – if you do not accept the verdict, you are “simply a hateful bigot no different from cross-burning Klansmen and have no place in a decent society” (medical diagnosis “transphobe”) – I am hesitant to point this out, but if a kid who is too young to understand what it even means to be a boy or girl is stealing a pink blanket, that does not mean he wants to be a she.
Especially when the pink blanket belongs to his special-needs “needs lots of attention” sister.
When Occam’s Razor and “first, do no harm” come to the same conclusion, then that conclusion should be prioritized.
Siblings of children with special needs have special needs themselves. Their sister or brother with special needs will get a bigger share of attention……Sometimes the feelings can be so intense or disruptive, that a child may need professional counseling to help them cope…
Talk to your doctor if you see any of these warning signs:
- changes in eating or sleeping (too much or too little)
- physical symptoms like headaches or stomachaches
- poor concentration
- poor self-esteem
- talk of hurting themselves
- difficulty separating from parents
- loss of interest in activities
- frequent crying or worrying
…You can expect some degree of sibling rivalry, even when one child has an illness or developmental disability. But sometimes the rivalry crosses the line into abuse. If there is a chance the sibling relationship has become abusive, you should seek professional help. Talk to your health care provider about options.
- Some possible signs of abuse are:
- One child always avoids their sibling
- A child has changes in behavior, sleep patterns, eating habits, or has nightmares
- A child acts out abuse in play
- A child acts out in sexually appropriate ways
- The children’s roles are rigid: one child is always the aggressor, the other, the victim
- The roughness or violence between siblings is increasing over time
Reassigning a child’s gender based on temper-tantrum behavior (and “depression” when the child does not get his way) is serious business. If they’re wrong, this kid’s life is ruined and they won’t even be held accountable. He’ll be on his own.
Even if they’re not wrong, they are demanding the destruction of a sexual boundary: there is no reason to suppose women ought to be comfortable with allowing biological males who identify as female into their safe or private spaces.